Monday, June 28, 2010
Just know, if I can do this anyone else out there who is trying can do it too. Keep trying and keep pushing. Thanks everyone for all of your support.
*BTW - Please excuse the sunburned face. LOL
Saturday, May 29, 2010
This word best describes my hair. This month has been really something as far as my hair is concerned. I blew it out the 2nd week of May and then the next week I went and got a Dominican Blowout. I finally wet my hair this week and it went right back to those tight coily spirals that I have grown to love. I was almost a little worried that my hair would not revert back, but within 5 minutes of rinsing my hair in the shower, it was back to waves and coils.
Some of my hair coiled even tighter than it did prior to my blow-outs. It was funny to feel this one little section in the back all tightly coiled. Now this is what I call "good hair". I am one of the lucky ones. When I was relaxing my hair I could leave the chemical on for twice the recommended time and still be ok. I could work the chemical down the entire hair shaft and still be ok. There were a lot of things that I did to my hair that were not great, but my hair always pulled through.
As I am going through this time of "hair uncertainty" it's nice to know that no matter what I do with my hair, my hair will have my back.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
So, I've been thinking about other hair options. I'm not really wanting to relax my hair back to bone str8. I've done that and I realize that I was doing way too much in relaxing my hair. After all that I have learned these past 2 years, I can not believe that I even had hair down my back. I would do my touch up and apply the relaxer all the way down to the tips of my hair strands! Yes, all the way down the hair - every time! What was I thinking? I was a dayum fool! So, if I ever went back to that route I wouldn't do the things I was doing before. It was just foolish.
I am seriously considering texlaxing though. Texlaxing is simply under processing the hair with a relaxer chemical. I read up on this yesterday and it truly is an art to this thing. There is a great article here on texlaxing. I read it yesterday and actually took notes. There were 5 different methods for texlaxing listed in the article. When I took noted I thought I would combine all 5 methods to try and keep as much texture in my hair as possible. Basically I would like my same hair just not as bulky. ...and I don't want to get one of those "bulk reducing" haircuts either! I heard that those haircuts are great at first, but they are horrible once it starts to grow out.
So, if I do this correctly, there may not even be that much of a visible difference to my hair. I don't want my hair to look processed. I would just like the bulk removed, less shrinkage, and just a little more curl definition. My mind is basically made up that I am going to go through with it. I'm not afraid of the chemicals as I have been relaxing my own hair since I was 19, so that's no big deal. I have never really trusted my hair to other people. that way if I mess my hair up - it's on me. I could always get a weave, wig, or braids until it grew back, but i never had to deal with that.
I've been trying to rationalize and think: "What is the worst that could happen if I texlax my hair?" Well, the worst is that all of my hair could fall out. LOL I doubt that will happen as I only intend to leave the mixture in my hair for <15 minutes. I used to leave relaxers on my hair for 45 minutes! (yeah, I know) So, what else could happen. Well, my hair could end up bone str8 instead of "textured". That would be an epic fail, but not a loss. I would just keep it moving and make my "newly str8" hair work.
I have had to re-learn how to take care of my hair in the past 2 years. I am a bit discouraged that my hair isn't longer. I know that everyone's hair grows at a different rate, but I just feel like my hair should have been much longer than it is now. I mean, true enough, blown out it brushes my shoulders in the back, but I wanted it to be longer. I am not sure what I was expecting. it just seemed like when my hair was relaxed it grew so much faster. Patience is not a virtue that I current;y have. I have been trying to work on that, but when I want something I want it RIGHT NOW!!!! I've made some good decisions and also some bad ones by "jumping the gun" so to speak.
I seem to get "like this" every couple of months. You know, where I just need a change. Last year i wanted color, so I started henna-ing my hair. This year it's something else. I mean, I am gonna be 40 in a couple of years. I have to keep it young and fresh! LOL I have to remain a trendsetter in my circle of friends and go back to being the chameleon I used to be. one of my friends told me a few years back when they were looking at my pictures, "Wow! I didn't know that was you. You have so many different looks." I need to get back to that. Now that I have been losing weight it's a lot easier.
Going to the mall and seeing all of the different styles and healthy relaxed hair doesn't help either. I saw so many different styles & textures. *sigh* It doesn't make my final decision any easier. Oh well, I'll continue to weigh out my options and I'll make sure to keep you all posted.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
This week I just up and got a Dominican Blow-out. Yeah, that's right. I'm not gonna lie, I missed my long, blowing in the wind hair. I was never so glad to feel my scalp! LOL My hair feels so soft & silky. (SMH) But is does. It feels good. It's kind of "poufing" up a little because of the humidity, but it still feels good. The experience wasn't a bad one. The only thing I hate is that my ends need a good trimming and I just got that done in January (2 inches when I went to Urbanbella). What the heck is going on with my hair that my ends are that raggedy? Well, I haven't been sealing them and maybe I need to change my routine up. I don't want to have to trim all the time.
At this point, I'm really trying to figure out what I want to do with my hair. Do I remain natural, go back to relaxing, or go the "in-between route" and do a texturizer. I do know I am enjoying my almost str8 hair today. I had curled it a bit this morning, but the curls didn't want to stay - except for in the front, so I clipped my hair up like in the old days. I hadn't been able to do that in 2 years.
I miss my long hair!!!!!!!!!!!!! At the same time, I like the freedom of having natural hair. I like being able to wash my hair in the shower, shake it out, and go on about my business. At the same time, I am loving being able to have str8 hair today. Maybe I can just stay natural and get my hair str8nd every few weeks so as not to get bored. I don't know, but I am quite "smitten" with my look today. I am feeling more and more awesome every day and it's showing.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Monday, May 10, 2010
Last time it wasn't a disaster, it just didn't get as str8 as I had hoped that it would. Now that I know how my hair will most likely look and what it will do, I'll just go in with the attitude that it will def not get str8 like some ladies have been able to get their hair to look by just blowing it dry. I just have to face it: I don't have that kind of hair! LOL My hair is a little more resistant, and I should know that from my relaxer days. I could leave a relaxer on my head for 45 minutes and still have hair!!!! I know, it still amazes me that something like that could even be possible.
Well, once again I am going to see what happens. I'll post results tomorrow.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
I think it's time for me to "twist it up" for a while - even if it's just for a few days. I just don't feel like doing it though. LOL. Maybe I could start doing it Friday night and be done by Saturday night when I get ready to go to church. I think I'll have to go back and check out my twisted styles from way back when it used to take me a whole night and just get bussy. both of my girls have their hair in twists and I think it's time for me to stop being lazy and get it done.
I just wish it didn't take so long. I got my daughter's hair done in not time, but when it comes to my hair it seems like it takes forever. I want small twists too. Oh well. I guess there's nothing to it but to do it. Wish I could start tonight, but with my little get-a-way on the horizon, I just don't have the time.
Yeah, I think I'll put it up in twists this weekend. My hair needs a rest. It would be nice if I could henna then twist, but I think that's pushing it. I just need to make sure that I can keep the twists in for more than 3 days! That is my problem now days. I just can't keep the twists in. Maybe if it takes me forever to do them I wont be so eager to take them out. maybe I should do some small twists and challenge myself to keep them in. I know I can do it - I've done it before. We'll see. I'll post pics when I finish twisting.
Yeah, I know it's been a long time since I've posted. It's a "tag-team" combo of laziness and being busy. It also doesn't help that I really have to use my brain sometimes to come up with interesting things to write about either. LOL
Today I just want to talk about hair envy. Don't try to act like you don't know what I'm talking about. We've all been there before. But here I'm not just talking about the hair envy where it's like, "oh man, I wish I had her hair", and things keep moving. I'm talking about real hair envy.
I am a member of a number of hair boards/sites. I do a lot of lurking and some posting - not as much posting as I used to. Lately I have been noticing a lot of hair envy - and not the good kind. I'm seeing sisters hate on other sisters simply for achieving length. What kind of mess is that? One discussion really sticks out in my mind: there was a discussion about one sister who had very long 4a hair and someone commented that "all that hair is unnecessary".
Really? Why? Because you can't achieve it? If she wants super long hair, then let it be. Why make that comment? It's obvious the young lady takes time to take care of her hair to achieve such length, so maybe "all that hair" is necessary for her. What is your point to make such a comment? Then for someone else to chime in and agree - it was just too much. I saw some similar actions on another hair board I visited the same day.
I mean, can somebody please shed some light on what is happening here? Is there that much hatery in the hair world that we have to go out like that? I mean, she has no chemicals in her hair - so no one can say - oh she's permed. Folks wanted to see a true natural 4a with hair longer than APL and here she is and still she gets no love because her hair is long and 100% hers - grown out of her scalp. Now if the hair had been a weave there would have been something said about that. She even got talked about because she uses heat on her hair - like blow dried & flat ironed once a month - hey that's her routine. Nobody said you have to do it. She is just sharing what works for her.
Why do we feel it necessary to be so judging about people? I mean, I'm not going to lie, I want her hair, ok? LOL Hell yes I want long, natural hair down my back, but if I can't achieve it will I go out and dis somebody who has it? Hell no. What's wrong with people? Instead of criticising and obviously hating - why don't you just do some research and get your hair game up!!!!
I'm just saying.......and because this is my blog, I can.
Monday, February 22, 2010
I am nearly completely caught up with things at work from the Christmas break. Yes, I said Christmas break! I was out for two weeks, then when I came back in January I had to prepare for an office move - which took me away from my regular duties - you know how packing for a move can get. Well, once settled into the new office we had an off-site retreat which took me away from the office. Not to mention I am doing the work of 3 people! Anywho, I am nearly caught up. I should be good to go by Wednesday. :)
I haven't really had any new revelations regarding my hair. I mean, no new products to try, no new styles or anything like that. I've just been coasting along...doing my thing....enjoying my hair...wishing it was longer. Yeah, I'm craving length. I think my hair is probably in shock from all of the cold weather. In the 10 years that I've been living in Georgia, I haven't known the winter to actually "be" winter. I mean in years past I was able to count the days I really wore a "real" coat to work. This year it's been nearly every single day. Today was the first day probably since early December that I didn't have to wear a coat to work, but guess what? That cold weather is coming right back! ...and talking about snow flurries on Wednesday morning!!!! UGGHHH! I know I am soooo sick of the cold. Oh yeah, now they're even talking about the potential for spring flooding - how about that! We go from a drought to flood potential. Hammercy! LOL
Can the spring just get here so that I can get back to the daily co-washes that I love so much? I mean, for real. I miss my daily co-washing, but I know my husband and water bill don't miss it. I mean, even my little Wal-Mart bill has just diminished. I haven't been buying 3 bottles of Suave a week or my tub of Softee Activator Gel - I just been like................whatever.
Last year it was easy to co-wash every day because I had a TWA and it was warmer. Now I have some hair and it's cold as heck outside and I just can't walk around with wet hair like that. Wetting it like I do now still keeps it wet most of the day. As a matter of fact, I still have a small damp spot in my hair as I am typing this at 5:24pm (12 hours post shower). SMH
Watch out y'all. I haven't even been on the hair boards like I used to be. I have just been way too busy. But, I'm gonna be back on today - tonight. Like, right now. Like, I have NaturallyCurly.com open in the other tab of my Windows Internet browser. LOL I have been toggling back and forth just to try to stay connected to the boards and not lose track of what's been happening.
Oh yeah, one more random thing: I am so glad that I haven't been made to feel crazy in Dunwoody. I mean, working up there - it's a different crew all together. I mean, working in Midtown - natural hair is almost "the norm" there. Dunwoody, well, that's one of the "more professional" spots to work in and I was so afraid that things would be "different" as far as hair is concerned. Well, thank goodness it's not. I mean, I only remember seeing 1 other natural in our building so far, but I've only been there for a month. There are 4 of us in our office, so I’m at home within our walls, but I don't feel out of place when I leave our office. I'll have to take notes on who and what I see in our building and report back.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
I'm telling you, that Reshma henna is the truth. That immediate dye release is the bizness!!! No more sitting and waiting for dye release. I mix and slap it on my hair and I am good to go. Funny how I nearly cried when I couldn't find MDH Henna in Cherians the day that I started buying Reshma. Oh well......so glad it worked out like it did. This time I did the application a little different than usual. I started the application in the back of my head, but I made sure to really concentrate on my problem area - applying lots of henna to that back portion. Since the front of my hair has a much looser curl pattern I decided not to apply the henna so thick to the front.
So, I left the henna on for a little over 2 hours and of course I DC'd with the Hello Hydration, honey, EVOO mix and this time I made sure to really pack the mixture on. I mean the conditioner completely and totally saturated my hair to the fullest. I left that on for a few hours as well. I noticed something when rinsing though. My hair seemed extra super soft. I think I had finally gotten the right measurements for the mixture. Too bad I didn't measure. I usually just pour it all together in a bow and mix. I added a little more EVOO this time and honey too. I noticed when I was rinsing my hair I could feel the EVOO still - if that makes sense. I liked that. My hair was so friggin soft and it always smells so good with that mixture.
I didn't add any product after I rinsed my DC since it was in the evening. Instead, I waited for my hair to dry as much as possible and then I clipped my hair down and placed my bonnet on. Can't complain not one bit. My hair is looking good. Kind of miss the 2 inches that was cut off a few weeks ago, but hey - it willl grow back - and when I look at the pics pre-cut, those ends needed to go away. Now I can start fresh and since I'm sealing I should see major progress.
Friday, February 5, 2010
Saturday, January 30, 2010
With the delay in traffic I ended up getting to Urbanbella right at 11:00. When I got there a gentleman signed me in and I had to fill out a paper - similar to what you would fill out at the doctor's office if you were a new patient. It asked questions like:
- What do you want to accomplish today? (styling, volume, cut, etc)
- What concerns do you have about your hair?
- When was your last haircut/trim?
- What chemicals are you currently using on your hair?
- What is your hair regimen?
- What products do you use on/in your hair?
It took me a minute to fill out the paper. Once finished I looked through a book of styles they had on the table in the waiting area. The book had pictures of styles along with the method of styling Ubanbella would use to achieve the pictured style. By the time I was making my second pass through the book, a stylist (Bernadette) came to get me.
Once I sat in the chair Bernadette asked what exactly I wanted and then she place a small towel around my neck and a smock over me. She asked about the color in my hair, then remembered that I had written on my form that I use henna bi-weekly in my hair. Then she asked if the henna color washes out - which led me to believe that she hadn't dealt with many customers who use it in their hair.
As Bernadette and I were talking, Keneesha walked in to greet the customers and ask another stylist some questions. I was in awe just looking at her. I didn't expect to see her in the salon at all, but she was there mostly cleaning up and finding out what products needed to be reordered. I was trying not to stare and I could help but giggle at myself for being so childish.
After Bernadette and I discussed what I would be having done, we went over to the shampoo bowl. First she washed my hair with Deva Care No-Poo. Then she conditioned my hair with JCS Nutrient Replenish. Then I was given a deep treatment with Curls Hair Tea and was placed under the dryer for 30 minutes. After I was taken from under the dryer I went back to the styling char where Bernadette began to detangle my hair. I was dreading this part because I just knew my head would be sore afterwards. However, Bernadette was taking very good care of my hair. She was heavy-handed, but not in a way that hurt.
Keneesha (the owner of the salon) ended up calling Bernadette away, so Ukali ended up finishing the detangling session. Let me just say, she was sooo gentle that I had to watch the mirror to make sure that she was truly detangling my hair. As my hair was being detangled, the would twirl the detangled section and then pin it up with a clip.
After the detangling was finished, Ukali went through my hair and asked exactly what style I wanted my hair cut into. At that time I told her I was just concerned about removing my split ends. She combed through a section of my hair and then came the news. "I need to cut off about 2 inches", she said. I was fine with that, considering that I hadn't had a cut or real trim since I BC'd on August 22, 2008. So only 2 inches, I was totally fine with that.
Ukali started to cut my hair as I watched her in the mirror. The scissors she had came from her own special case. The scissors were sharp too. Each snip sounded "oh so precise". I watched as she combed and snipped and combed and snipped. I was a little worried because I wondered how my hair would look after the cut, but I knew I needed the ends trimmed.
After she finished trimming my hair she swept up the hair, which really was minimal. I was surprised. I'm sure I wont miss the hair. After Ukali finished the cut/trim, we went back to the shampoo bowl so that she could rinse out the Curls Hair Tea.
As she was finishing my rinse out Keneesha came back into the part of the salon where we were and started putting some things away. Imagine my surprise when she began to finish rinsing my hair!!!!!!!!! OMG! I could not believe it!
She and I chatted as she asked about my hair, the henna, and the other products I use in my hair. She said she would start by adding Kinky Curly Curling Custard to my hair. She really was meticulous about adding the product to my hair. I mean, she has a complete routine in how she did it. She added the KCCC all around and all over my hair. Once she completed that, she said she would then add Miss Jessie's Curly pudding on the top. This process took a minute because she would add product, then add a little water, then more product, then more water, then more product, then smoothed it out. This went on for a while until she had my hair perfectly smoothed out with product.
Once the product application was complete, she place me under they dryer. Keneesha had already told me that the product application would cause my hair to take a while to dry and as thick as my hair is, I knew it would take a while too - especially with that KCCC on my hair. Anyway, I think I was under they dryer for over an hour. I didn't even check the time because I just wanted to enjoy the experience.
The dryer felt sooo good. The heat was just right - not that burning heat I've felt in some other salons. I was just meditating and trying to catch a nap under there. It really was relaxing. While I was under they dryer I was able to see myself in the mirror and a lady behind me who was getting a color job done. I watched her hair go from dark brown to a burgundy almost like mine. LOL
Once I was dry, I was taken back to my seat by Ukali where she got some Miss Jessie's Curly Buttercream and added a little to my hair while she finger combed it out. Yes, I could notice that my hair was shorter, but I also noticed that the ends didn't look as thin and stringy as they had a few days ago. I love the new cut and the way my hair was styled. I do have to say that I am really not a fan of Miss Jessie's, but for the way Keneesha applied the product and styled my hair - well, I love it.
I know there have been a lot of ladies that don't really care for MJ's and says it ends up drying their hair out, but I felt safe since the KCCC was added to my hair first. I don't think it would be too bad to use it every once in a while with the KCCC added first. I like the way my hair looks with the combination. Keneesha explained that the Curly Pudding would give my hair a more "finished" look over top of the KCCC and I knew exactly what she was saying. She was exactly right.
Once my finger styling was completed I went to the front where Keneesha checked me out and gave me a "Customized Take Home Prescription". Basically it was just a re-cap of what they had done at the salon and what products were used. It also told me how to maintain the style at home and what to do if I wanted to refresh the style for 2nd or 3rd day hair.
When it was all said and done and I was checking out of the salon, it was 3:21 and I had been there for 4 1/2 hours!!!! That is a pretty long time. I knew it would take a while because I have a lot of thick hair and my hair takes a long time to dry, but I didn't think it would take this long.
Would I do it again? YOU BET!!!! I am totally and completely satisfied with my experience at Urbanbella.
I'm posting a few pics, but encourage you to visit my fotki for more pics.
Friday, January 29, 2010
They are going to shampoo and condition my hair then trim - that costs $60. But, since i haven't been to a salon in 2 years I decided to pay an extra $20 for them to use some product and fingerstyle me on out. So it will be $80 total, which isn't bad. I wouldn't do this every month or even every 3 months, but once a year? Yeah, I would splurge and do it once a year.
The stylist who booked my appointment said that my actual stylist may recommend additional services like deep conditioning or hydrating, but those would be optional. I'm wondering what - if anything - they will recommend? I'm not spending more than the $80 for the service I agreed to - that's it - nothing more! At least for a little while I will be pampered and I can let someone else take on the responsibility of making my hair look good.
I'll make sure to come back tomorrow night with an update and pics from my Urbanbella trim.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Anywho, I went and bought some Redken Smooth Down Heat Glide to protect my hair from the heat. It came highly recommended by the ladies over on the 4a board at NaturallyCurly.com. The Redken was about $16 for a bottle and a little really goes a long way. I'm sure I will have that bottle for a long time because I will not be putting heat on my hair but maybe twice a year.
So, the first thing I did was shampoo my hair with Kinky Curly Come Clean. Right now that's my holy grail shampoo. I love the smell of it, and it gets my hair really clean. I only have to use it every other month unless my hair has a lot of product buildup. After I shampooed, I conditioned with Suave Coconut - another holy grail. While the conditioner was in my hair I made sure to do a thorough detangle. Then I rinsed out the conditioner, towel blotted my hair dry and added the Redken.
After the Redken was applied all over my hair, I went on to blow it out. I used the Denman to sort of stretch my hair while drying it. I used my hair dryer on medium heat and made sure to keep the nozzle away from my hair as much as I could. Back in the old days I would have used the dryer attachment and everything to try and get my hair to the coveted "bone str8" look. Well, after about an hour of blow drying, I decided to give up. My arms were getting tired and so was I. I liked the freedom of my wash-n-go's and this was NOT what was up. When I stopped, my hair looked like this:
Let me just say, when I thought of blowing my hair out, this was not what I had in mind! LOL I truly thought I would get my hair nearly straight like some of the ladies on the hair board did. I should have know better. My hair rebels! It was probably laughing at me the entire time I was attempting to blow my hair out.
I guess if I really want it blown out I would have to go to a professional. I'm thinking I need my ends trimmed and I wouldn't dare try that on my own. I have notice a few split ends here and there and I don't want it to get worse. I'm thinking if I let anyone straighten and trim my ends I would have to go to Urbanbella to let them do it. I don't know if I would even trust anyone else with my hair. Ahhhh, ok, so I took just a few minutes to call Urbanbella to see if they had to straighten my hair to trim the ends and they do not. Not sure how accurately they could trim it without straightening it, but hey, they are in business for a reason. I think I will call in the morning to make an appointment with them. I think I can treat myself to a professional cut/trim once a year.
Oh well, I'll keep you all posted as to when I get my trim and how it goes. I'll have updates with the whole experience.